Dating two women simultaneously
Sometimes it is spoken of as if it is a chronic condition in need of a cure or a gift that most Christians don’t want. Others speak of it with contempt or an eventual resignation that this will always be their lot.Yet the assumption underlying the majority of these conversations about singleness and dating is that the intended audience has been in a relationship or is dating on a regular basis but just hasn’t yet met his or her spouse. In my early 20s, people thought my singleness was endearing.The Word of God is sharper than a double-edged sword (Heb.), and those of us who have been entrusted with it must beware of how we wield it.Rejection and Shame Conventional wisdom may say that “nice girls finish last,” but what happens when the finish line never comes into view? In Edward Welch’s book , he defines shame in this way: “Shame is the deep sense that you are unacceptable because of something you did, something done to you, or something associated with you. It took years of prayer, meditation on God’s Word, discipleship, biblical counseling, and a deeper understanding of the gospel of Jesus Christ to graciously lift the wickedly stubborn root of shame and rejection from my heart. Shame’s dastardly lessons from the past haunt me sporadically—how can they not?
What God has not granted to me at this time is not necessary, but what he does grant .The angel instructed her to return, but not before affirming God’s love for her expressed in this promise: “I will increase your descendants so much that they will be too numerous to count” (Gen. After receiving this precious promise from the Lord, Hagar “gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: ‘You are the God who sees me,’ for she said, ‘I have now seen the One who sees me.’” (Gen. I am amazed that the first recorded appearance of the angel of the Lord is in this encounter with Hagar who was not a Jew but a Gentile excluded from the covenant promises during this period in redemptive history. He also lifts mine and others who have experienced the debilitating nature of shame.And I am struck that her cause was not disregarded nor forgotten by God. Holding My Dreams Loosely By God’s grace, shame no longer defines this area of my life as it has in the past.But there is one perspective I have yet to read, and it’s that of a person who is perpetually single. In my late 20s, endearment regressed to bewilderment.This is my story, this is my song: I am a 30-something single woman and I have never been in a dating relationship. As I entered my early 30s, bewilderment morphed into mystification.